1 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:07,000 Downloaded from YTS.BZ 2 00:00:08,000 --> 00:00:13,000 Official YIFY movies site: YTS.BZ 3 00:00:22,814 --> 00:00:25,234 (inquisitive music playing) 4 00:01:20,747 --> 00:01:24,751 We took off from Goose Bay at night. 5 00:01:24,751 --> 00:01:26,670 (thunder rumbles) 6 00:01:33,302 --> 00:01:36,471 What we didn't know, the storm had increased... 7 00:01:36,471 --> 00:01:38,432 in pace, 8 00:01:38,432 --> 00:01:42,686 and we ran smack dab into the storm. 9 00:02:10,672 --> 00:02:13,133 The chief engineer said, 10 00:02:13,133 --> 00:02:15,093 "We've only got one hour's worth of gas." 11 00:02:21,934 --> 00:02:23,685 I didn't wanna believe I was lost. 12 00:02:33,403 --> 00:02:35,489 But the number was very firm. 13 00:02:35,489 --> 00:02:37,199 20 degrees. 14 00:02:46,625 --> 00:02:50,879 ...someone said, "It's there." 15 00:02:59,263 --> 00:03:03,684 They said, "You're white. Why are you white?" 16 00:03:03,684 --> 00:03:06,687 I didn't have color in my face for three days. 17 00:03:06,687 --> 00:03:11,900 They never knew how close we all were to dying. 18 00:03:43,640 --> 00:03:48,061 Life is about survival. 19 00:03:48,061 --> 00:03:49,396 (shouting in German) 20 00:03:56,153 --> 00:04:00,282 ...the world will never be at peace. 21 00:04:02,451 --> 00:04:04,453 Narrator: As a lead radar navigator, 22 00:04:04,453 --> 00:04:07,497 23-year-old First Lieutenant Bernard Bail 23 00:04:07,497 --> 00:04:10,834 was lucky enough to escape death three times, 24 00:04:10,834 --> 00:04:13,170 but he didn't want to tempt fate. 25 00:04:34,358 --> 00:04:37,194 Allen Weiner: If we examine his life from this young man 26 00:04:37,194 --> 00:04:39,738 when he went into the air force, 27 00:04:39,738 --> 00:04:44,034 that whole experience ultimately became the bedrock 28 00:04:44,034 --> 00:04:46,078 for his later work with patients, 29 00:04:46,078 --> 00:04:50,749 because here he went and had to bomb the fatherland 30 00:04:50,749 --> 00:04:53,210 so he could protect the motherland. 31 00:04:55,921 --> 00:04:57,923 Narrator: After suffering the scourge of war, 32 00:04:57,923 --> 00:05:01,802 Bail set his compass on a different course. 33 00:05:01,802 --> 00:05:05,722 His next mission, to become a doctor and psychoanalyst 34 00:05:05,722 --> 00:05:08,809 who would pioneer a radical new theory 35 00:05:08,809 --> 00:05:12,145 that strikes at the root of all emotional illness. 36 00:05:32,916 --> 00:05:35,878 Narrator: Bail became convinced that all mental anguish 37 00:05:35,878 --> 00:05:38,297 is the unconscious offspring 38 00:05:38,297 --> 00:05:40,799 of the torment suffered by our mothers 39 00:05:40,799 --> 00:05:44,136 and imprinted onto us before we were born. 40 00:06:10,829 --> 00:06:12,539 We're all traumatized. 41 00:06:12,539 --> 00:06:14,708 Because we've received an imprint, 42 00:06:14,708 --> 00:06:16,418 and it split our mind, 43 00:06:16,418 --> 00:06:18,378 and it changed the course of our personal development. 44 00:06:18,378 --> 00:06:21,965 So people are often living lives 45 00:06:21,965 --> 00:06:25,969 that have very little to do with who they really are 46 00:06:25,969 --> 00:06:29,973 and has everything to do with who their forbearers were. 47 00:06:32,643 --> 00:06:35,270 Narrator: Bail's theory posits that this imprint 48 00:06:35,270 --> 00:06:38,148 cuts us off from experiencing pure love 49 00:06:38,148 --> 00:06:40,025 and our true potential. 50 00:06:40,025 --> 00:06:43,403 To identify this damage suffered in the womb, 51 00:06:43,403 --> 00:06:46,406 Bail uses the dream as his north star 52 00:06:46,406 --> 00:06:48,909 to navigate his patient's unconscious 53 00:06:48,909 --> 00:06:51,119 and release them from their suffering. 54 00:07:09,012 --> 00:07:13,851 Gilbert Kliman: Dr. Bail impresses me as a remarkable pioneer. 55 00:07:13,851 --> 00:07:18,689 A rather fearless thinker. 56 00:07:18,689 --> 00:07:21,275 Who speaks his mind 57 00:07:21,275 --> 00:07:24,361 and speaks from the heart 58 00:07:24,361 --> 00:07:27,614 and from immense clinical experience. 59 00:07:28,824 --> 00:07:31,493 An avant-garde thinker 60 00:07:31,493 --> 00:07:34,371 who did not fear to tread 61 00:07:34,371 --> 00:07:39,751 where Darwin had given up. 62 00:07:39,751 --> 00:07:43,547 So far, hundreds of thousands of years 63 00:07:43,547 --> 00:07:49,469 have not helped mankind being kept in the dark. 64 00:07:49,469 --> 00:07:56,143 Now we're being illuminated with a tremendous truth. 65 00:07:56,143 --> 00:07:58,687 If we make use of it 66 00:07:58,687 --> 00:08:01,315 there will be a tremendous evolution. 67 00:08:03,901 --> 00:08:05,402 Narrator: Like all theories, 68 00:08:05,402 --> 00:08:07,029 the path to its conclusion 69 00:08:07,029 --> 00:08:09,781 was fraught with attacks and challenges. 70 00:08:09,781 --> 00:08:12,701 But to chart the course of any development, 71 00:08:12,701 --> 00:08:15,954 you have to start at the beginning. 72 00:08:15,954 --> 00:08:19,625 Woman: So I wanna start with your mother. (laughs) 73 00:08:19,625 --> 00:08:21,418 Don't you start with my mother. 74 00:08:21,418 --> 00:08:24,880 Listen, in my part of town, 75 00:08:24,880 --> 00:08:27,216 don't mess with my mother, you motherfucker. 76 00:08:27,216 --> 00:08:29,176 -(laughs) -Be careful. 77 00:08:30,761 --> 00:08:33,931 Narrator: Bernard Bail was born Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, 78 00:08:33,931 --> 00:08:36,475 on November 20th, 1920, 79 00:08:36,475 --> 00:08:38,477 the middle child of Russian immigrants 80 00:08:38,477 --> 00:08:40,812 Lilian and Abraham Bail. 81 00:08:40,812 --> 00:08:43,649 Bail: My mother played guitar. 82 00:08:43,649 --> 00:08:47,861 I remember her singing Mayn Shtetele Belz. 83 00:08:47,861 --> 00:08:49,905 "My Home in Belz," 84 00:08:49,905 --> 00:08:52,032 and it is very sad. 85 00:08:52,032 --> 00:08:55,536 It's a tribute to a lost time and a lost place. 86 00:09:57,055 --> 00:09:59,474 I knew I couldn't trust her. 87 00:10:00,893 --> 00:10:03,562 Narrator: Unconsciously searching for refuge, 88 00:10:03,562 --> 00:10:05,772 though his family was not religious, 89 00:10:05,772 --> 00:10:08,442 Bail followed an internal calling 90 00:10:08,442 --> 00:10:10,235 to enroll in Sunday school 91 00:10:10,235 --> 00:10:11,653 at the local synagogue. 92 00:10:19,494 --> 00:10:21,580 I thought that was just fabulous. 93 00:10:47,940 --> 00:10:50,108 ...sitting on top of the mountain, 94 00:10:50,108 --> 00:10:55,155 my arms raised, saying, "O' Manitou..." 95 00:10:55,155 --> 00:10:58,075 God. "O' Manitou..." 96 00:10:58,075 --> 00:10:59,743 It was great. 97 00:10:59,743 --> 00:11:04,248 My aspiration was to get the hell out of the ghetto. 98 00:11:33,819 --> 00:11:37,072 Narrator: In 1942, Bail graduated college 99 00:11:37,072 --> 00:11:38,574 with a teaching degree, 100 00:11:38,574 --> 00:11:41,243 but the world was at war, 101 00:11:41,243 --> 00:11:43,996 and he could not turn his back on serving his country, 102 00:11:43,996 --> 00:11:46,582 so he enlisted in the U.S. Air Force. 103 00:12:09,021 --> 00:12:12,232 They called me, and they sidelined me. 104 00:12:12,232 --> 00:12:14,193 They wouldn't let me march 105 00:12:14,193 --> 00:12:17,487 because I was out of step. 106 00:12:22,784 --> 00:12:27,956 So I used to spend my time watching everybody march. 107 00:12:27,956 --> 00:12:29,917 I thought that was hilarious. 108 00:12:29,917 --> 00:12:31,960 Apparently, I'm out of step with everybody. 109 00:12:50,312 --> 00:12:52,981 Narrator: Bernard Bail was one of five men 110 00:12:52,981 --> 00:12:55,484 chosen to be a lead radar navigator, 111 00:12:55,484 --> 00:12:58,987 trained to operate the newest radar technology. 112 00:12:58,987 --> 00:13:01,365 This new radar was so accurate 113 00:13:01,365 --> 00:13:03,283 that even with a layer of clouds, 114 00:13:03,283 --> 00:13:07,913 Bail could precisely target where to drop the bombs. 115 00:13:29,893 --> 00:13:31,854 You have to know all the stars. 116 00:13:51,790 --> 00:13:54,251 Narrator: On June 5, 1944, 117 00:13:54,251 --> 00:13:57,880 Bernard Bail, along with his valiant crew, 118 00:13:57,880 --> 00:14:00,549 took to the skies over a dangerous area 119 00:14:00,549 --> 00:14:02,301 of occupied France 120 00:14:02,301 --> 00:14:05,345 and navigated his third mission. 121 00:14:05,345 --> 00:14:06,471 Bail: By this time... 122 00:16:35,537 --> 00:16:38,165 Narrator: For his courageous wartime efforts, 123 00:16:38,165 --> 00:16:40,667 he received the Distinguished Service Cross, 124 00:16:40,667 --> 00:16:42,544 the French Legion of Honor, 125 00:16:42,544 --> 00:16:44,046 the Purple Heart, 126 00:16:44,046 --> 00:16:46,381 three Distinguished Flying Crosses, 127 00:16:46,381 --> 00:16:50,219 six battle stars, and six air medals. 128 00:16:56,975 --> 00:16:59,228 ...including my pilot, 129 00:16:59,228 --> 00:17:01,897 who could fly in formation... 130 00:17:11,031 --> 00:17:14,076 ...strong, steady... 131 00:17:28,048 --> 00:17:30,217 ...and every one of us... 132 00:17:39,935 --> 00:17:42,271 loved each other. 133 00:17:46,400 --> 00:17:48,610 And would give... 134 00:17:52,406 --> 00:17:55,158 his life... 135 00:17:55,158 --> 00:17:59,121 for anyone as they would give their life for me. 136 00:18:00,914 --> 00:18:04,960 Don't find that anywhere... 137 00:18:04,960 --> 00:18:06,962 in real life. 138 00:18:09,006 --> 00:18:11,925 Narrator: Dedicated to defeating the tyranny of evil, 139 00:18:11,925 --> 00:18:13,552 Bail would lead his crew 140 00:18:13,552 --> 00:18:17,014 on another 22 successful missions. 141 00:18:17,014 --> 00:18:20,100 By his 25th mission in 1945, 142 00:18:20,100 --> 00:18:22,186 the Germans had developed a jet 143 00:18:22,186 --> 00:18:24,396 which outpaced the American planes. 144 00:18:24,396 --> 00:18:28,150 Bail's assignment? To bomb the jet factory. 145 00:18:30,527 --> 00:18:33,697 Bail: I remember that day... 146 00:18:33,697 --> 00:18:37,451 I had my usual meal in the morning, 147 00:18:37,451 --> 00:18:41,830 three pancakes, eggs in between the pancakes. 148 00:18:43,749 --> 00:18:45,292 Gentlemen, you may expect 149 00:18:45,292 --> 00:18:48,003 considerable enemy opposition today. 150 00:19:29,253 --> 00:19:31,672 I remembered I'm a Jew. 151 00:19:31,672 --> 00:19:33,841 Can't wear the dog tags. 152 00:19:33,841 --> 00:19:35,384 I tore them off. 153 00:20:19,386 --> 00:20:20,846 Now, remember, 154 00:20:20,846 --> 00:20:23,807 I didn't see the train station from this vantage point. 155 00:20:28,145 --> 00:20:30,772 But from inside. 156 00:20:42,242 --> 00:20:45,829 This was all filled with people. 157 00:21:00,552 --> 00:21:04,890 I stood up, and I saluted him. 158 00:21:17,736 --> 00:21:19,321 (whistle blows) 159 00:21:26,912 --> 00:21:28,705 Flyers, 160 00:21:28,705 --> 00:21:30,666 really doesn't matter about what side you're on. 161 00:21:30,666 --> 00:21:33,752 You're a flyer, therefore a comrade. 162 00:22:05,951 --> 00:22:08,745 Narrator: Bernard Bail returned to the hospital room 163 00:22:08,745 --> 00:22:10,497 where he had been a prisoner of war 164 00:22:10,497 --> 00:22:14,585 for the first time in 71 years. 165 00:22:14,585 --> 00:22:19,381 It is now a school dedicated to combating racism. 166 00:22:22,634 --> 00:22:25,387 I don't even know what to say. 167 00:22:28,682 --> 00:22:32,561 I-- I can't think of anything to say. 168 00:22:52,206 --> 00:22:54,625 Down this way. Yeah. 169 00:22:54,625 --> 00:22:57,836 This looks familiar. 170 00:22:57,836 --> 00:23:02,424 I was thinking I wasn't dead yet. 171 00:23:06,261 --> 00:23:08,514 Is there a door here? 172 00:23:21,235 --> 00:23:23,237 This is the room. 173 00:23:55,435 --> 00:23:57,312 (typewriter typing) 174 00:24:46,028 --> 00:24:48,947 Irmgard: "I know that I'm not allowed to give you this, 175 00:24:48,947 --> 00:24:54,870 however it is quiet, and I would not do anything bad. 176 00:24:54,870 --> 00:24:58,790 You smiled at me, and I had a deep joy. 177 00:24:58,790 --> 00:25:02,002 And why should I not tell it to you? 178 00:25:02,002 --> 00:25:05,797 My love of country is worth many sacrifices, 179 00:25:05,797 --> 00:25:08,050 but you must promise to destroy the paper, 180 00:25:08,050 --> 00:25:10,219 for it would not be good for you and for me 181 00:25:10,219 --> 00:25:11,929 if they would be found. 182 00:25:11,929 --> 00:25:14,723 And surely they will look at your things." 183 00:25:34,826 --> 00:25:37,120 Irmgard: "Why am I speaking to you? 184 00:25:37,120 --> 00:25:40,832 I wish to show you something of our real soul. 185 00:25:40,832 --> 00:25:42,876 Women are different from men. 186 00:25:42,876 --> 00:25:45,546 We remain true to ourselves, 187 00:25:45,546 --> 00:25:49,800 and, in spite of that, we are able to give up ourselves. 188 00:25:49,800 --> 00:25:54,763 I believe that we really find ourselves when we have given up." 189 00:25:54,763 --> 00:25:59,017 I told her that I was Jewish. 190 00:25:59,017 --> 00:26:01,144 She said that didn't matter to her. 191 00:26:07,109 --> 00:26:13,156 I may be a prisoner, but to be touched by feelings... 192 00:26:21,206 --> 00:26:24,168 Irmgard: "All thoughts which you don't say, 193 00:26:24,168 --> 00:26:26,712 I know them from you. 194 00:26:26,712 --> 00:26:29,423 All the pains of which you don't speak, 195 00:26:29,423 --> 00:26:31,925 they weep in me. 196 00:26:31,925 --> 00:26:36,013 You are living within me with such a great love. 197 00:26:36,013 --> 00:26:39,349 Do you wish to see yourself? 198 00:26:39,349 --> 00:26:44,146 You must go to the far away to yourself through my soul. 199 00:26:44,146 --> 00:26:46,815 I believe that love is something holy, 200 00:26:46,815 --> 00:26:49,526 but that one must not speak much about it. 201 00:26:49,526 --> 00:26:52,029 One must only feel it." 202 00:26:52,029 --> 00:26:56,491 I suppose she was telling me she loved me. 203 00:27:11,507 --> 00:27:13,258 Narrator: The Germans were unable 204 00:27:13,258 --> 00:27:15,010 to stem the force of defeat, 205 00:27:15,010 --> 00:27:19,097 and in May, 1945, they surrendered, 206 00:27:19,097 --> 00:27:22,559 liberating the American prisoners of war. 207 00:28:21,952 --> 00:28:24,913 (flute playing) 208 00:28:51,481 --> 00:28:53,942 (bell tolling) 209 00:28:59,114 --> 00:29:01,450 (laughs) 210 00:29:01,450 --> 00:29:03,035 Unbelievable. 211 00:29:03,035 --> 00:29:05,662 It's the chimes. 212 00:29:09,625 --> 00:29:12,294 Unbelievable. 213 00:29:14,171 --> 00:29:16,924 I told you she's here. 214 00:29:16,924 --> 00:29:18,842 She's here. 215 00:30:06,598 --> 00:30:08,350 Narrator: Bail would later write, 216 00:30:08,350 --> 00:30:11,019 "During the long days of my captivity, 217 00:30:11,019 --> 00:30:13,897 Irmgard was the talisman that saved me, 218 00:30:13,897 --> 00:30:17,359 and she continued to save me long after that. 219 00:30:17,359 --> 00:30:20,946 Through Irmgard, I slowly came to understand 220 00:30:20,946 --> 00:30:24,074 that spirit sustains and nourishes us 221 00:30:24,074 --> 00:30:25,784 body and soul." 222 00:30:34,585 --> 00:30:36,378 Even the enemy. 223 00:30:41,383 --> 00:30:43,802 Todd Anton: For Americans, the first people to be sent home 224 00:30:43,802 --> 00:30:46,430 were our wounded, but there was not a lot of mental care 225 00:30:46,430 --> 00:30:49,183 to prepare them for what they were going to see, 226 00:30:49,183 --> 00:30:51,810 and I've had a lot of veterans tell me 227 00:30:51,810 --> 00:30:55,147 that the trip home was far more terrifying 228 00:30:55,147 --> 00:30:57,399 than landing on Omaha Beach. 229 00:31:01,361 --> 00:31:04,781 ...changes a person. 230 00:31:13,373 --> 00:31:15,834 Narrator: Back home, Bail found a world 231 00:31:15,834 --> 00:31:19,171 both familiar and surreal. 232 00:31:19,171 --> 00:31:20,464 Haunted by the war 233 00:31:20,464 --> 00:31:22,341 and yearning for Irmgard, 234 00:31:22,341 --> 00:31:25,260 he could no longer face the dreary life 235 00:31:25,260 --> 00:31:27,679 that stood before him. 236 00:31:27,679 --> 00:31:30,516 I was still very jumpy. 237 00:31:30,516 --> 00:31:32,935 When a car backfired, 238 00:31:32,935 --> 00:31:35,854 I remember falling to the pavement... 239 00:31:44,821 --> 00:31:47,199 We had 16 million GIs 240 00:31:47,199 --> 00:31:49,326 and sailors and marine and airmen 241 00:31:49,326 --> 00:31:51,245 and Coast Guard men coming back, 242 00:31:51,245 --> 00:31:54,373 and we didn't know how to psychologically treat them. 243 00:31:54,373 --> 00:31:55,791 We called it battle fatigue. 244 00:32:03,382 --> 00:32:05,801 That's what I had gone to college for. 245 00:32:24,152 --> 00:32:27,322 So I went my way. 246 00:32:27,322 --> 00:32:30,617 I listened to nobody. 247 00:32:41,003 --> 00:32:43,005 In the course of the interview, 248 00:32:43,005 --> 00:32:46,175 he said, "Why do you wanna be a doctor? 249 00:32:46,175 --> 00:32:48,051 Why don't you become a rabbi?" 250 00:32:48,051 --> 00:32:54,975 I thought, "It's a good thing I left my gun home." 251 00:32:54,975 --> 00:32:57,477 I certainly would have killed him. 252 00:33:00,147 --> 00:33:02,691 I knew he was being anti-Semitic. 253 00:33:17,289 --> 00:33:19,917 There was a fixed quota, 254 00:33:19,917 --> 00:33:23,045 and it stayed firm every single year, 255 00:33:23,045 --> 00:33:27,716 and the gentile boys did not interact at all 256 00:33:27,716 --> 00:33:29,760 with the Jewish boys. 257 00:33:31,845 --> 00:33:35,224 Narrator: Bail fulfilled his dream of becoming a doctor 258 00:33:35,224 --> 00:33:38,435 and graduated Temple University Medical School 259 00:33:38,435 --> 00:33:40,979 in 1952. 260 00:33:40,979 --> 00:33:45,609 He went on to intern at Mt. Sinai Hospital in Philadelphia 261 00:33:45,609 --> 00:33:49,196 where he graduated in 1953. 262 00:33:49,196 --> 00:33:53,450 My good friend said, "You ought to be a psychoanalyst." 263 00:33:53,450 --> 00:33:55,244 I didn't really know what that meant. 264 00:34:02,543 --> 00:34:06,129 Narrator: Desperate to escape a dead-end life in Philadelphia, 265 00:34:06,129 --> 00:34:08,966 a stroke of good fortune gave him an opportunity 266 00:34:08,966 --> 00:34:11,552 to move to California. 267 00:34:14,638 --> 00:34:17,140 (upbeat music playing) 268 00:34:29,236 --> 00:34:31,446 ...which I finished in 1956. 269 00:34:31,446 --> 00:34:34,157 My mother didn't like it. 270 00:34:34,157 --> 00:34:36,410 She wanted a... (laughs) 271 00:34:36,410 --> 00:34:39,246 She wanted to say, "My son, the doctor, 272 00:34:39,246 --> 00:34:43,333 has an office on Walnut Street." 273 00:34:43,333 --> 00:34:45,210 I loved it. 274 00:34:45,210 --> 00:34:48,547 It was wild, it was free, it was open. 275 00:34:48,547 --> 00:34:50,591 Everybody came from someplace else, 276 00:34:50,591 --> 00:34:54,428 so, metaphorically, there were no rules. 277 00:34:54,428 --> 00:34:57,264 Something new could happen here. 278 00:34:58,849 --> 00:35:00,976 Narrator: One evening at Schwab's restaurant, 279 00:35:00,976 --> 00:35:02,853 something new did happen, 280 00:35:02,853 --> 00:35:06,148 when a chance meeting fulfilled a desire 281 00:35:06,148 --> 00:35:08,942 he had always held close to his heart. 282 00:35:08,942 --> 00:35:11,528 When I finished my dinner, 283 00:35:11,528 --> 00:35:13,530 I went over to say hello to Jim. 284 00:35:13,530 --> 00:35:15,574 I really went over to meet the girl. 285 00:35:15,574 --> 00:35:18,535 You know, blonde, shapely. 286 00:35:18,535 --> 00:35:21,079 Just my style. 287 00:35:21,079 --> 00:35:23,874 When I do that, I'm making fun of myself. 288 00:35:26,919 --> 00:35:29,087 Get off your high horse, Bail. 289 00:35:29,087 --> 00:35:31,924 We started going out, 290 00:35:31,924 --> 00:35:34,885 and we had analysis in common, 291 00:35:34,885 --> 00:35:37,346 and we said, "Let's get married." 292 00:35:37,346 --> 00:35:39,223 Perfect. 293 00:35:39,223 --> 00:35:42,851 She happened to be actually named Carolyn Adams. 294 00:35:42,851 --> 00:35:46,772 We used to joke she was related to John Adams 295 00:35:46,772 --> 00:35:49,816 coming over on the Mayflower. 296 00:35:49,816 --> 00:35:52,736 And I would say, 297 00:35:52,736 --> 00:35:54,947 "You ain't got nothin'. 298 00:35:54,947 --> 00:35:57,991 I come from Moses. 299 00:35:57,991 --> 00:36:00,118 Now, that's a lineage." 300 00:36:02,579 --> 00:36:05,040 Narrator: Bail began his analytic training 301 00:36:05,040 --> 00:36:09,253 at the revered Los Angeles Psychoanalytic Society and Institute 302 00:36:09,253 --> 00:36:11,880 in the golden age of psychoanalysis. 303 00:36:11,880 --> 00:36:14,049 It was a privilege, 304 00:36:14,049 --> 00:36:17,594 because not many people were accepted. 305 00:36:17,594 --> 00:36:22,766 What I felt good about is I was being taught knowledge 306 00:36:22,766 --> 00:36:25,644 about the unconscious. 307 00:36:25,644 --> 00:36:28,188 Narrator: Bail immediately grasped 308 00:36:28,188 --> 00:36:30,524 that the keys to illuminating a life 309 00:36:30,524 --> 00:36:33,652 were locked in the vast layers of the unconscious. 310 00:36:33,652 --> 00:36:35,445 As a navigator, 311 00:36:35,445 --> 00:36:39,157 he had trusted the compass, maps, and stars. 312 00:36:39,157 --> 00:36:43,287 Now, the dream would be his north star 313 00:36:43,287 --> 00:36:47,291 to find the truth of a patient's being. 314 00:36:47,291 --> 00:36:50,085 At this time, Sigmund Freud's ideas 315 00:36:50,085 --> 00:36:52,337 dominated psychoanalysis. 316 00:36:52,337 --> 00:36:54,923 Freud pioneered the principle 317 00:36:54,923 --> 00:36:57,759 that the unconscious mind governs our behavior 318 00:36:57,759 --> 00:37:00,429 and that the dream was the doorway 319 00:37:00,429 --> 00:37:03,682 to discovering our unconscious motivations. 320 00:37:03,682 --> 00:37:06,476 The interpretation of dreams 321 00:37:06,476 --> 00:37:10,314 really brought dreams into importance and focus 322 00:37:10,314 --> 00:37:13,817 for Western medicine and Western psychology. 323 00:37:13,817 --> 00:37:18,280 Uh, certainly dreams as important or healing 324 00:37:18,280 --> 00:37:21,950 had been around in all kinds of cultures for much longer. 325 00:37:21,950 --> 00:37:27,247 Some of the ideas like the unconscious as a motivation 326 00:37:27,247 --> 00:37:29,666 had been there in Western philosophy, 327 00:37:29,666 --> 00:37:31,376 but Freud was the one 328 00:37:31,376 --> 00:37:33,545 to bring them into the treatment room 329 00:37:33,545 --> 00:37:35,714 and make them relevant to therapy. 330 00:37:35,714 --> 00:37:40,469 The whole method of classical Freudian psychoanalysis 331 00:37:40,469 --> 00:37:43,305 is trying to get at the Oedipal complex. 332 00:37:44,473 --> 00:37:46,642 The idea of the Oedipal complex 333 00:37:46,642 --> 00:37:53,023 was that children attach to their mother first and foremost 334 00:37:53,023 --> 00:37:55,776 as the object of their libido, 335 00:37:55,776 --> 00:37:57,694 and that, for boys, 336 00:37:57,694 --> 00:38:00,656 gradually they come to see their father 337 00:38:00,656 --> 00:38:03,492 as this rival that has the mother's attention. 338 00:38:03,492 --> 00:38:06,787 Freud had people tell dreams, 339 00:38:06,787 --> 00:38:11,291 and then he had them free-associate to elements of the dream. 340 00:38:11,291 --> 00:38:13,126 You start with a dream figure, 341 00:38:13,126 --> 00:38:16,964 and that reminds you of someone you knew next door in childhood, 342 00:38:16,964 --> 00:38:20,092 and that reminds you of a different person from your childhood, 343 00:38:20,092 --> 00:38:23,762 and pretty soon you're not at anything that overtly sounds 344 00:38:23,762 --> 00:38:26,515 all that related to the dream you had last night. 345 00:38:28,976 --> 00:38:32,229 Narrator: Though Freud's theory reigned supreme, 346 00:38:32,229 --> 00:38:36,441 Bail found it to be inadequate in his own analysis. 347 00:38:36,441 --> 00:38:38,861 And then when he began practicing, 348 00:38:38,861 --> 00:38:43,657 he found it not to be very helpful to his patients. 349 00:38:43,657 --> 00:38:47,035 Narrator: Eager to explore a new method to help patients, 350 00:38:47,035 --> 00:38:49,872 Bail and his colleagues began to read the work 351 00:38:49,872 --> 00:38:53,083 of Melanie Klein, a Viennese psychoanalyst 352 00:38:53,083 --> 00:38:57,087 who, unlike Freud, explored the uncharted territory 353 00:38:57,087 --> 00:38:59,673 of an infant's mind. 354 00:38:59,673 --> 00:39:02,092 Mrs. Klein began to feel 355 00:39:02,092 --> 00:39:05,345 that you could analyze children, 356 00:39:05,345 --> 00:39:09,892 which was something that was antithetical 357 00:39:09,892 --> 00:39:14,104 to the idea that analysis was about the Oedipus complex. 358 00:39:15,814 --> 00:39:19,067 Narrator: In the 1960s, several of the British psychoanalysts 359 00:39:19,067 --> 00:39:21,820 were invited to the Los Angeles institute 360 00:39:21,820 --> 00:39:24,156 to teach Klein's theories. 361 00:39:24,156 --> 00:39:28,452 One of the more esteemed analysts was Wilfred Bion, 362 00:39:28,452 --> 00:39:30,162 who had been in training analysis 363 00:39:30,162 --> 00:39:32,289 with Melanie Klein. 364 00:39:45,886 --> 00:39:49,431 Narrator: Wilfred Bion was best known for his psychoanalysis 365 00:39:49,431 --> 00:39:51,975 of patients in psychotic states 366 00:39:51,975 --> 00:39:55,812 and understanding the nature of group dynamics. 367 00:39:55,812 --> 00:40:00,108 Bail took on the challenge of inviting Bion to California 368 00:40:00,108 --> 00:40:02,819 and became his first Los Angeles patient 369 00:40:02,819 --> 00:40:06,907 and remained one for the next 12 years. 370 00:40:06,907 --> 00:40:10,786 Klein's ideas began to take root at the institute. 371 00:40:10,786 --> 00:40:14,581 These ideas would spark an intellectual firestorm 372 00:40:14,581 --> 00:40:19,920 questioning the very foundation of American psychoanalysis. 373 00:40:19,920 --> 00:40:24,299 Douglas Kirsner: The Los Angeles situation was very complex. 374 00:40:24,299 --> 00:40:28,637 There is the very exciting climate there, 375 00:40:28,637 --> 00:40:32,307 and a climate with a lot of rewards, 376 00:40:32,307 --> 00:40:35,811 both professional and financial. 377 00:40:35,811 --> 00:40:39,147 Marilyn Monroe's therapist Ralph Greenson 378 00:40:39,147 --> 00:40:44,736 was absolute center of psychoanalysis in Los Angeles, 379 00:40:44,736 --> 00:40:47,823 and he dealt all the cards, he had all the money. 380 00:40:47,823 --> 00:40:50,993 He had rich patients, super rich patients. 381 00:40:50,993 --> 00:40:55,122 He was aligned with this-- his colleague Milton Wexler, 382 00:40:55,122 --> 00:40:56,748 who was a shrink to the stars. 383 00:40:56,748 --> 00:40:58,959 They gave out so many referrals. 384 00:40:58,959 --> 00:41:03,922 They were the go-to people for good referrals. 385 00:41:03,922 --> 00:41:06,758 Ralph Greenson felt that Kleinians 386 00:41:06,758 --> 00:41:09,428 were destroying psychoanalysis. 387 00:41:09,428 --> 00:41:12,598 He had said a number of times 388 00:41:12,598 --> 00:41:15,350 that he would wanna-- he'd kill the Kleinians. 389 00:41:15,350 --> 00:41:19,438 You could hear them say, "Kill the Kleinians! 390 00:41:19,438 --> 00:41:22,316 Kill the Kleinians." 391 00:41:22,316 --> 00:41:27,905 It made my blood turn cold. 392 00:41:27,905 --> 00:41:31,700 In 1973, 393 00:41:31,700 --> 00:41:36,205 the American Psychoanalytic Association 394 00:41:36,205 --> 00:41:42,127 did a routine site visit to the Los Angeles institute, 395 00:41:42,127 --> 00:41:46,840 and what they found was this kind of dissension 396 00:41:46,840 --> 00:41:49,635 and these new ideas being taught, 397 00:41:49,635 --> 00:41:52,346 and they were not happy about it. 398 00:41:52,346 --> 00:41:59,228 The American was going through a crisis of paranoia, 399 00:41:59,228 --> 00:42:01,980 and it frightened the candidates. 400 00:42:01,980 --> 00:42:06,652 Your analysis may not be acceptable. 401 00:42:06,652 --> 00:42:10,822 Only if it's traditional American psychoanalysis. 402 00:42:10,822 --> 00:42:13,075 I asked the chairman of the committee, 403 00:42:13,075 --> 00:42:15,410 "Define that for me. 404 00:42:15,410 --> 00:42:17,037 I don't know what that is." 405 00:42:17,037 --> 00:42:19,456 It was a ploy. 406 00:42:21,041 --> 00:42:24,586 They were on some kind of witch hunt, really, 407 00:42:24,586 --> 00:42:28,465 to close down the institute. 408 00:42:28,465 --> 00:42:30,926 And they never defined what on earth 409 00:42:30,926 --> 00:42:32,761 these standards were. 410 00:42:32,761 --> 00:42:36,598 What they meant, it would appear, 411 00:42:36,598 --> 00:42:38,767 was Freudian analysis. 412 00:42:40,227 --> 00:42:44,356 They asked the Southern California institute 413 00:42:44,356 --> 00:42:47,943 to give them a list of analysts who were Kleinian. 414 00:42:47,943 --> 00:42:50,279 Was a bit McCarthyite. 415 00:42:50,279 --> 00:42:53,448 And the Southern California institute 416 00:42:53,448 --> 00:42:56,910 responded by saying that they only had a list of analysts 417 00:42:56,910 --> 00:42:58,745 and here it was, 418 00:42:58,745 --> 00:43:02,457 and they didn't have Kleinians or Freudians or whatever. 419 00:43:02,457 --> 00:43:05,627 Bail: So somehow out of all this turmoil 420 00:43:05,627 --> 00:43:11,258 the dean picked me to remove from my post of teaching. 421 00:43:11,258 --> 00:43:15,679 That I was corrupting the young. 422 00:43:15,679 --> 00:43:18,140 That's the words they used. 423 00:43:18,140 --> 00:43:21,393 I thought, "Thank you." 424 00:43:21,393 --> 00:43:24,271 They put me and Socrates in the same boat. 425 00:43:24,271 --> 00:43:26,440 Thank you very much. 426 00:43:28,609 --> 00:43:31,320 It was hilarious, except it wasn't. 427 00:43:31,320 --> 00:43:32,905 It was dead serious. 428 00:43:32,905 --> 00:43:37,993 I never said I was a Kleinian. 429 00:43:37,993 --> 00:43:39,995 I never was. 430 00:43:39,995 --> 00:43:42,080 But I'm for free speech. 431 00:43:42,080 --> 00:43:44,166 Free mind. 432 00:43:44,166 --> 00:43:46,335 To believe what I want. 433 00:43:49,129 --> 00:43:55,010 My friend of many years called me one night and said, 434 00:43:55,010 --> 00:43:57,262 "They're out to get you." 435 00:43:57,262 --> 00:43:59,056 He was at a meeting. 436 00:43:59,056 --> 00:44:01,725 They talked about getting rid of me. 437 00:44:01,725 --> 00:44:05,521 He said, "I'm sorry, I can't talk to you. 438 00:44:05,521 --> 00:44:08,190 If I associate with you, 439 00:44:08,190 --> 00:44:11,151 I won't be sent patients. 440 00:44:11,151 --> 00:44:13,987 Bye-bye." 441 00:44:13,987 --> 00:44:16,782 They felt themselves totally entitled. 442 00:44:16,782 --> 00:44:19,159 They felt as though they didn't have any boundaries. 443 00:44:19,159 --> 00:44:23,121 Whatever they said was the way psychoanalysis should be. 444 00:44:23,121 --> 00:44:28,502 Dr. Bail, having faced death in the war, 445 00:44:28,502 --> 00:44:31,004 had a great deal of courage, 446 00:44:31,004 --> 00:44:36,343 and he wasn't going to take this kind of... 447 00:44:36,343 --> 00:44:38,554 what he felt was oppression. 448 00:44:38,554 --> 00:44:42,766 Bail was seen as very formidable. 449 00:44:42,766 --> 00:44:45,936 He was seen as very militant. 450 00:44:45,936 --> 00:44:48,605 Bail: I consulted a lawyer. 451 00:44:48,605 --> 00:44:52,568 The lawyer said, "Since they removed you without due process, 452 00:44:52,568 --> 00:44:55,028 we'll sue the hell out of them. 453 00:44:55,028 --> 00:44:59,283 The institute, the American, and the international." 454 00:44:59,283 --> 00:45:04,413 I had them, and they knew it. 455 00:45:04,413 --> 00:45:07,416 A judge was actually brought in 456 00:45:07,416 --> 00:45:13,130 to talk to this issue with the Los Angeles institute, 457 00:45:13,130 --> 00:45:16,800 and he told them that they could not restrict 458 00:45:16,800 --> 00:45:20,971 what was being taught by the training analysts 459 00:45:20,971 --> 00:45:24,892 unless they made themselves a private club, 460 00:45:24,892 --> 00:45:27,728 because they were a public institution. 461 00:45:27,728 --> 00:45:31,982 The American deplorably denied 462 00:45:31,982 --> 00:45:34,443 that they had ever made this recommendation. 463 00:45:36,737 --> 00:45:39,156 Narrator: In 1977, 464 00:45:39,156 --> 00:45:42,826 at the International Psychoanalytic Conference Meeting in Jerusalem, 465 00:45:42,826 --> 00:45:45,787 it was determined that the matter was settled. 466 00:46:13,273 --> 00:46:17,236 Dr. Bail became a kind of persona non grata 467 00:46:17,236 --> 00:46:18,487 at the institute. 468 00:46:43,220 --> 00:46:47,683 Never mind that in '63 469 00:46:47,683 --> 00:46:50,853 I gave the institute three quarters of a million dollars 470 00:46:50,853 --> 00:46:57,693 because a dying patient I undertook to analyze was grateful. 471 00:46:57,693 --> 00:47:00,487 Nobody had ever done that before. 472 00:47:00,487 --> 00:47:02,948 Most analysts at that time 473 00:47:02,948 --> 00:47:05,576 would not analyze a dying patient. 474 00:47:05,576 --> 00:47:10,247 Dr. Bail had the courage to go deeply with her into death. 475 00:47:10,247 --> 00:47:13,333 Who should get the best help if not the dying? 476 00:47:22,926 --> 00:47:24,845 Narrator: Because of Bail's courage, 477 00:47:24,845 --> 00:47:27,306 analyzing a dying patient 478 00:47:27,306 --> 00:47:31,435 is now an accepted practice in psychoanalysis. 479 00:47:31,435 --> 00:47:35,856 Kirsner: The threatened lawsuit was very important, 480 00:47:35,856 --> 00:47:40,110 because part of this was a right to free speech. 481 00:47:40,110 --> 00:47:43,697 Because if it could happen with Kleinians in LA, 482 00:47:43,697 --> 00:47:47,618 then couldn't it happen in other places? 483 00:47:47,618 --> 00:47:50,412 But this was the good-- 484 00:47:50,412 --> 00:47:52,539 the good part of this story, 485 00:47:52,539 --> 00:47:55,959 because it freed him, I believe, 486 00:47:55,959 --> 00:47:59,838 from being part of the group 487 00:47:59,838 --> 00:48:03,717 so that he could discover new things. 488 00:48:04,927 --> 00:48:07,262 That navigational experience 489 00:48:07,262 --> 00:48:10,224 was central in navigating his way through 490 00:48:10,224 --> 00:48:12,643 the institute, which was hostile 491 00:48:12,643 --> 00:48:13,977 and tried to gun him down, 492 00:48:13,977 --> 00:48:16,230 just like Germany tried to gun him down, 493 00:48:16,230 --> 00:48:18,649 and he prevailed, and he kept flying, 494 00:48:18,649 --> 00:48:23,195 until he became clear in his, you know, his work 495 00:48:23,195 --> 00:48:25,447 to bring something new to mankind. 496 00:48:28,158 --> 00:48:30,661 Narrator: Devastated by the betrayal of his peers 497 00:48:30,661 --> 00:48:32,663 and the demise of his marriage, 498 00:48:32,663 --> 00:48:36,750 Bail realized that after 12 years with Dr. Bion, 499 00:48:36,750 --> 00:48:39,711 his own analysis had failed. 500 00:48:47,344 --> 00:48:51,181 I felt that he already intuited 501 00:48:51,181 --> 00:48:57,271 that psychoanalysis with a Freudian paradigm 502 00:48:57,271 --> 00:49:03,193 had come to the limits of its efficacy. 503 00:49:03,193 --> 00:49:06,613 Dr. Bail says that Bion taught him how to think. 504 00:49:20,210 --> 00:49:24,840 Narrator: In 1979, Wilfred Bion returned to England, 505 00:49:24,840 --> 00:49:27,467 and shortly afterwards passed away. 506 00:49:28,844 --> 00:49:31,180 Losing his beloved mentor 507 00:49:31,180 --> 00:49:34,766 and disillusioned about the work he had dedicated his life to, 508 00:49:34,766 --> 00:49:38,937 Bail would now have to navigate his own darkness. 509 00:50:28,487 --> 00:50:33,367 ...and gave me the room internally 510 00:50:33,367 --> 00:50:38,163 to pursue the next phase in my life. 511 00:50:42,209 --> 00:50:46,588 Narrator: In 1985, divorced and wondering about the course of his life, 512 00:50:46,588 --> 00:50:48,549 Bail attended the International 513 00:50:48,549 --> 00:50:51,009 Psychoanalytic Association Conference 514 00:50:51,009 --> 00:50:53,470 in Hamburg, Germany. 515 00:50:53,470 --> 00:50:56,139 Knowing this was Irmgard's city, 516 00:50:56,139 --> 00:50:58,809 he mounted a search to find her. 517 00:50:58,809 --> 00:51:01,937 He hoped to find the love that had been his savior 518 00:51:01,937 --> 00:51:03,981 so many years ago, 519 00:51:03,981 --> 00:51:06,191 but in the heat of war, 520 00:51:06,191 --> 00:51:09,152 he had never learned Irmgard's last name. 521 00:51:19,913 --> 00:51:22,624 Narrator: He contacted another former nurse, 522 00:51:22,624 --> 00:51:26,128 praying for a clue to Irmgard's location, 523 00:51:26,128 --> 00:51:28,255 but she was unwilling to meet with him. 524 00:51:43,103 --> 00:51:45,772 Irmgard: Do you wish to see yourself? 525 00:51:45,772 --> 00:51:50,694 You must go to the far away to yourself from my soul. 526 00:51:50,694 --> 00:51:52,654 Narrator: Wandering the streets, 527 00:51:52,654 --> 00:51:55,657 reading and rereading Irmgard's letters, 528 00:51:55,657 --> 00:51:59,119 he searched for her in every woman's face. 529 00:51:59,119 --> 00:52:02,831 Then, a package arrived at his hotel. 530 00:52:16,428 --> 00:52:19,890 Narrator: The love he had hoped to recapture was gone. 531 00:52:19,890 --> 00:52:23,727 Heartbroken, Bernard Bail returned to Los Angeles 532 00:52:23,727 --> 00:52:26,271 and immersed himself in his work. 533 00:52:26,271 --> 00:52:28,565 Determined to fulfill his mission, 534 00:52:28,565 --> 00:52:31,735 to find the key that would unlock the torments 535 00:52:31,735 --> 00:52:34,738 of a person's soul. 536 00:52:46,959 --> 00:52:49,461 Bail: Do you wish to see yourself? 537 00:52:49,461 --> 00:52:55,884 You must go to the far away to yourself through my soul. 538 00:52:55,884 --> 00:52:58,262 That's what analysis is. 539 00:52:58,262 --> 00:53:01,515 Dr. Bail was really on his own. 540 00:53:01,515 --> 00:53:05,936 And he decided to just listen to the dreams of his patients 541 00:53:05,936 --> 00:53:07,729 without any theory. 542 00:53:10,566 --> 00:53:12,442 Narrator: No analyst was thinking 543 00:53:12,442 --> 00:53:15,028 the way Bail was beginning to think. 544 00:53:15,028 --> 00:53:18,240 And though he was in the depths of darkness, 545 00:53:18,240 --> 00:53:21,326 he was beginning to see in the dark. 546 00:53:21,326 --> 00:53:24,204 None of the other therapies have a beginning, 547 00:53:24,204 --> 00:53:28,000 and, in science, there's gotta be a beginning 548 00:53:28,000 --> 00:53:32,004 to truly follow a development. 549 00:53:32,004 --> 00:53:34,715 Narrator: For the next ten years, 550 00:53:34,715 --> 00:53:37,759 Bail captured his patient's dreams, 551 00:53:37,759 --> 00:53:39,761 listening, interpreting, 552 00:53:39,761 --> 00:53:41,513 chipping away at their suffering 553 00:53:41,513 --> 00:53:44,224 like a Michelangelo of the soul. 554 00:53:44,224 --> 00:53:48,353 Dream by dream, like a compass needle finding north, 555 00:53:48,353 --> 00:53:51,481 they all began to point in the same direction. 556 00:53:51,481 --> 00:53:53,317 Woman: I was really, in my mother's life, 557 00:53:53,317 --> 00:53:54,985 to be the mother she never had. 558 00:53:54,985 --> 00:53:58,739 Man: My mother was a pretty unhappy person. 559 00:53:58,739 --> 00:54:00,741 Woman: My sister and my father were as hateful to me... 560 00:54:00,741 --> 00:54:04,077 Man: My mother was not really present in many ways 561 00:54:04,077 --> 00:54:05,704 when I was a child. 562 00:54:05,704 --> 00:54:07,915 Man: My mother put up with terrible beatings. 563 00:54:07,915 --> 00:54:11,710 At one point, he broke-- he broke her arm. 564 00:54:11,710 --> 00:54:15,339 Narrator: Every interpretation he made pointed to the mother. 565 00:54:15,339 --> 00:54:17,966 Every complaint was about the mother. 566 00:54:17,966 --> 00:54:21,887 In every dream, patients talked about pleasing their mothers, 567 00:54:21,887 --> 00:54:25,098 understanding their mothers, saving their mothers. 568 00:54:25,098 --> 00:54:27,100 But why the mother? 569 00:54:27,100 --> 00:54:30,020 And where did it all begin? 570 00:54:33,774 --> 00:54:37,444 Konrad Lorenz, a Nobel-Prize winning ethologist, 571 00:54:37,444 --> 00:54:40,030 discovered that birds and other species 572 00:54:40,030 --> 00:54:44,117 are imprinted during important developmental stages. 573 00:54:44,117 --> 00:54:45,702 He found that newborns 574 00:54:45,702 --> 00:54:48,789 bond to the first moving object they see, 575 00:54:48,789 --> 00:54:51,333 and take on their characteristics. 576 00:54:56,880 --> 00:54:59,883 ...unbeknownst to the young. 577 00:54:59,883 --> 00:55:04,096 Narrator: Unbeknownst to the young. Unconscious. 578 00:55:04,096 --> 00:55:08,058 But what was it that a mother passed down to her baby? 579 00:55:08,058 --> 00:55:12,354 To confirm his findings, Bail recorded his own dreams 580 00:55:12,354 --> 00:55:14,731 and saw the same patterns emerge. 581 00:55:14,731 --> 00:55:19,069 And then he received a key piece of information. 582 00:55:19,069 --> 00:55:22,698 He had a patient who delivered a baby, 583 00:55:22,698 --> 00:55:28,203 and she was having a very hard time with this newborn. 584 00:55:28,203 --> 00:55:32,332 And she brought the baby to his office. 585 00:55:32,332 --> 00:55:35,085 The baby was crying and crying 586 00:55:35,085 --> 00:55:39,298 and when he made an interpretation to the mother 587 00:55:39,298 --> 00:55:42,217 based on her dream, 588 00:55:42,217 --> 00:55:45,262 the baby quieted down. 589 00:55:45,262 --> 00:55:50,392 And he realized at that point that speaking to the mother 590 00:55:50,392 --> 00:55:53,520 was speaking to the baby. 591 00:55:53,520 --> 00:55:56,356 I would say, according to my research, 592 00:55:56,356 --> 00:55:58,734 all the important events happen in infancy. 593 00:55:58,734 --> 00:56:02,070 There's no such thing as adult psychoanalysis 594 00:56:02,070 --> 00:56:04,448 because all of our analysis 595 00:56:04,448 --> 00:56:08,160 deals with the traumas of infancy and childhood. 596 00:56:09,995 --> 00:56:14,458 In order for us to really understand a human being, 597 00:56:14,458 --> 00:56:16,585 we have to start in the womb. 598 00:56:18,712 --> 00:56:21,298 Bail: Imprints are very simple. 599 00:56:21,298 --> 00:56:25,052 Things like: You are not to succeed in life. 600 00:56:25,052 --> 00:56:27,346 You are not to be happy. 601 00:56:27,346 --> 00:56:29,348 You are to kill yourself. 602 00:56:29,348 --> 00:56:32,142 You are not to be rich. 603 00:56:32,142 --> 00:56:35,562 You cannot free yourself 604 00:56:35,562 --> 00:56:38,398 unless you know 605 00:56:38,398 --> 00:56:42,152 or have an idea about your imprint, 606 00:56:42,152 --> 00:56:47,908 because it has tentacles everywhere. 607 00:56:47,908 --> 00:56:50,661 Narrator: Bail's theory goes all the way back 608 00:56:50,661 --> 00:56:53,372 to preconception and fetal life. 609 00:56:53,372 --> 00:56:56,458 In over 60 years of clinical work, 610 00:56:56,458 --> 00:56:59,878 he discovered that every fetus is imprinted 611 00:56:59,878 --> 00:57:03,924 with its mother's unconscious, unbearably painful feelings. 612 00:57:03,924 --> 00:57:07,302 Everything that a mother experiences while she's pregnant 613 00:57:07,302 --> 00:57:09,847 impacts the fetus. Everything. 614 00:57:09,847 --> 00:57:13,851 A lot of times people wanna just assume it's-- it's blissful, 615 00:57:13,851 --> 00:57:16,019 or the fetus doesn't know anything. 616 00:57:16,019 --> 00:57:18,397 But a fetus knows feeling. 617 00:57:18,397 --> 00:57:20,524 In fact, it's all feeling. 618 00:57:20,524 --> 00:57:22,776 There have been many studies that have looked at 619 00:57:22,776 --> 00:57:24,945 if the pregnancy is wanted or not wanted 620 00:57:24,945 --> 00:57:26,822 or if there's a state of anxiety in Mom, 621 00:57:26,822 --> 00:57:30,576 and there absolutely is an associated risk 622 00:57:30,576 --> 00:57:33,579 for that developing baby to then 623 00:57:33,579 --> 00:57:36,081 have higher risk of affective disorders, 624 00:57:36,081 --> 00:57:39,084 neuropsychiatric disease, throughout its life. 625 00:57:39,084 --> 00:57:42,921 We now know there are 626 00:57:42,921 --> 00:57:46,425 forms of genetic transmission 627 00:57:46,425 --> 00:57:48,927 which are called epigenetic. 628 00:57:50,596 --> 00:57:53,182 Tracy Bale: Epigenetics at its most basic 629 00:57:53,182 --> 00:57:56,935 really just means aspects that affect gene expression 630 00:57:56,935 --> 00:58:00,272 that are not changes in the DNA sequence. 631 00:58:00,272 --> 00:58:04,776 Things in the environment can influence how genes can be expressed 632 00:58:04,776 --> 00:58:09,698 by placing really biochemical markers on the DNA, 633 00:58:09,698 --> 00:58:12,451 and that changes how that gene might be expressed. 634 00:58:12,451 --> 00:58:17,039 So some epigenetic marks can increase the expression of a gene, 635 00:58:17,039 --> 00:58:19,458 and those can be inherited, 636 00:58:19,458 --> 00:58:22,628 and some epigenetic marks will actually repress or decrease 637 00:58:22,628 --> 00:58:25,172 and those also can be inherited. 638 00:58:25,172 --> 00:58:28,258 So a woman is exposed to trauma 639 00:58:28,258 --> 00:58:31,178 or infection or famine, 640 00:58:31,178 --> 00:58:32,554 for instance, dietary challenge. 641 00:58:32,554 --> 00:58:34,973 These sorts of stressors in the environment 642 00:58:34,973 --> 00:58:37,476 can influence the germ cells, and these may be lasting. 643 00:58:37,476 --> 00:58:39,853 Then it becomes transgenerational. 644 00:58:39,853 --> 00:58:42,147 So it can be passed from grandparent 645 00:58:42,147 --> 00:58:45,234 down to grandchild, and so on. 646 00:58:45,234 --> 00:58:49,780 My grandmother had learned 647 00:58:49,780 --> 00:58:52,533 many years earlier 648 00:58:52,533 --> 00:58:56,912 that fifteen members of her little village in Russia 649 00:58:56,912 --> 00:58:59,831 had been exterminated. 650 00:58:59,831 --> 00:59:05,128 What my grandmother went through still affected me 651 00:59:05,128 --> 00:59:07,714 two generations later. 652 00:59:07,714 --> 00:59:11,218 Psychologically, I know that my grandmother 653 00:59:11,218 --> 00:59:14,847 was terribly and unreasonably 654 00:59:14,847 --> 00:59:17,808 afraid that I would die. 655 00:59:17,808 --> 00:59:22,980 So if people want to think that the next generation isn't going to feel 656 00:59:22,980 --> 00:59:26,233 what we're all doing today, they're just wrong. 657 00:59:26,233 --> 00:59:29,403 Every baby born... 658 00:59:29,403 --> 00:59:31,655 feels it all. 659 00:59:32,948 --> 00:59:36,326 I'm now in the midst of a project for 660 00:59:36,326 --> 00:59:38,787 Native American preschoolers, 661 00:59:38,787 --> 00:59:42,374 and I'm pretty well convinced 662 00:59:42,374 --> 00:59:45,586 that they're reacting to the massacres, 663 00:59:45,586 --> 00:59:48,046 which occurred hundreds of years ago, 664 00:59:48,046 --> 00:59:53,594 but have been imprinted in the psychological 665 00:59:53,594 --> 00:59:56,597 if not the genetic memories 666 00:59:56,597 --> 01:00:00,058 of their forbearers. 667 01:00:00,058 --> 01:00:04,104 Mothers do more than turn genes off or on. 668 01:00:04,104 --> 01:00:08,442 They tell you what kind of life you will have. 669 01:00:08,442 --> 01:00:11,445 Loren Weiner: We're talking about the unconscious world. 670 01:00:11,445 --> 01:00:15,782 So this is beyond what most people are really perceiving 671 01:00:15,782 --> 01:00:17,201 is happening. 672 01:00:17,201 --> 01:00:21,079 That in this unconscious world, 673 01:00:21,079 --> 01:00:24,041 everyone is carrying around 674 01:00:24,041 --> 01:00:26,710 the imprint they received from their mothers. 675 01:00:26,710 --> 01:00:30,380 See, this has been going on for millennia. 676 01:00:30,380 --> 01:00:33,675 So we've got mother after mother 677 01:00:33,675 --> 01:00:35,677 passing down all of this information 678 01:00:35,677 --> 01:00:38,138 She doesn't know she's passing down. 679 01:00:38,138 --> 01:00:40,516 All of this unwanted material. 680 01:00:40,516 --> 01:00:44,061 All of these things that are so hard to feel. 681 01:00:44,061 --> 01:00:46,438 "I don't feel good enough, I don't feel loved." 682 01:00:46,438 --> 01:00:50,192 But now that baby, that fetus, took in the same feeling. 683 01:01:11,797 --> 01:01:15,801 Loren Weiner: Even in the nicest of environments, 684 01:01:15,801 --> 01:01:17,845 you will still have this going on, 685 01:01:17,845 --> 01:01:21,098 and the reason it's so important is that it is the root 686 01:01:21,098 --> 01:01:23,892 of all psychopathology. 687 01:01:23,892 --> 01:01:27,896 And really, of all pathology, physical and mental. 688 01:01:51,128 --> 01:01:53,088 Allen Weiner: The baby, in the beginning, 689 01:01:53,088 --> 01:01:56,884 is really kind of an energetic essence 690 01:01:56,884 --> 01:02:00,971 that is very loose and very free. 691 01:02:00,971 --> 01:02:04,933 It is very vulnerable to turbulence. 692 01:02:04,933 --> 01:02:08,061 Now, the imprint, which is unconscious, 693 01:02:08,061 --> 01:02:12,983 when it is driven into that bubble of energy, 694 01:02:12,983 --> 01:02:14,943 damage is done. 695 01:02:14,943 --> 01:02:19,823 Profound damage to that energetic field is done. 696 01:02:19,823 --> 01:02:24,703 So for survival's sake, a fetus will say, 697 01:02:24,703 --> 01:02:27,706 "I will take all of this burden for you. 698 01:02:27,706 --> 01:02:29,583 I will relieve you, Mom. 699 01:02:29,583 --> 01:02:31,543 Therefore you will do better 700 01:02:31,543 --> 01:02:33,086 and you'll guarantee that I live." 701 01:02:33,086 --> 01:02:36,381 But now we've got a fetus that doesn't have access 702 01:02:36,381 --> 01:02:38,300 to all of itself. 703 01:02:38,300 --> 01:02:41,970 So it will split off this toxic material 704 01:02:41,970 --> 01:02:43,472 from the mother. 705 01:02:43,472 --> 01:02:45,474 Once it's walled off, 706 01:02:45,474 --> 01:02:49,019 the fetus does everything it can to not touch it again. 707 01:02:49,019 --> 01:02:54,483 Narrator: For the fetus, walling off the pain meant walling off feelings, 708 01:02:54,483 --> 01:02:56,860 leaving the child powerless. 709 01:02:56,860 --> 01:02:58,946 From this weakened place, 710 01:02:58,946 --> 01:03:01,573 all the power rests with the parents, 711 01:03:01,573 --> 01:03:03,909 especially the mother. 712 01:03:03,909 --> 01:03:07,162 This is why this work is very difficult. 713 01:03:07,162 --> 01:03:11,750 Because people feel threatened that they will return 714 01:03:11,750 --> 01:03:15,712 to a time of excruciating pain 715 01:03:15,712 --> 01:03:18,507 about which they can do nothing. 716 01:03:19,883 --> 01:03:23,720 MAN: My father comes home from his office Christmas party drunk, 717 01:03:23,720 --> 01:03:26,515 brandishing a loaded pistol... 718 01:03:27,808 --> 01:03:30,811 ...saying to my mother, "I'm gonna kill you. 719 01:03:30,811 --> 01:03:34,147 But first I wanna kill your-- your mother." 720 01:03:34,147 --> 01:03:37,359 He went looking for my grandmother. 721 01:03:37,359 --> 01:03:40,529 She hid from him in a closet. 722 01:03:40,529 --> 01:03:42,865 That was the kind of thing 723 01:03:42,865 --> 01:03:45,701 that happened frequently in our house-- 724 01:03:45,701 --> 01:03:48,370 violence, threats of murder. 725 01:03:49,913 --> 01:03:52,082 Loren Weiner: Our adult lives are actually 726 01:03:52,082 --> 01:03:54,751 replicating our experiences in the womb. 727 01:03:54,751 --> 01:03:58,088 And after a while, you'll start to hear that 728 01:03:58,088 --> 01:04:01,592 the complaints sound like that of a baby. 729 01:04:01,592 --> 01:04:04,636 My girlfriend didn't do this for me. 730 01:04:04,636 --> 01:04:06,638 My boyfriend didn't do that for me. 731 01:04:06,638 --> 01:04:08,515 I didn't get taken care of. 732 01:04:08,515 --> 01:04:09,933 I didn't get loved the right way. 733 01:04:11,310 --> 01:04:16,273 Dana Gardiner: My past relationships had all been destroyed 734 01:04:16,273 --> 01:04:20,444 pretty much by my own philandering that I did. 735 01:04:20,444 --> 01:04:23,947 But it really wasn't until 736 01:04:23,947 --> 01:04:29,036 I got to experience Doctor Bail's philosophy 737 01:04:29,036 --> 01:04:31,663 that, uh, 738 01:04:31,663 --> 01:04:35,375 that allowed me to see that... 739 01:04:35,375 --> 01:04:38,086 the very need for contact 740 01:04:38,086 --> 01:04:41,590 that had kept me from loving, 741 01:04:41,590 --> 01:04:45,093 was, in a sense, 742 01:04:45,093 --> 01:04:49,473 exactly the same need within my mother 743 01:04:49,473 --> 01:04:51,725 that led her 744 01:04:51,725 --> 01:04:55,020 to seduce a little five-year-old boy. 745 01:04:55,020 --> 01:04:58,607 What we see is that a fetus is not only trying to save the mother, 746 01:04:58,607 --> 01:05:02,528 it's really saying, "I'm going to become you." 747 01:05:04,446 --> 01:05:07,491 Cheryl Pappas: My mother's health was varying, 748 01:05:07,491 --> 01:05:10,577 and I was always saving her from death, I thought. 749 01:05:10,577 --> 01:05:14,706 I simply mirrored my mother's... 750 01:05:14,706 --> 01:05:16,500 condition. 751 01:05:16,500 --> 01:05:18,585 I fought for her. 752 01:05:18,585 --> 01:05:22,005 I had no other purpose in life. 753 01:05:22,005 --> 01:05:24,383 I knew my mother's life. I didn't know mine. 754 01:05:24,383 --> 01:05:25,926 But I knew hers. 755 01:05:25,926 --> 01:05:30,180 The imprint, since it's unconscious, 756 01:05:30,180 --> 01:05:32,891 can best be seen in the physical world 757 01:05:32,891 --> 01:05:35,060 by the idea of a marionette. 758 01:05:35,060 --> 01:05:39,773 Whereas the strings that go to the appendages 759 01:05:39,773 --> 01:05:41,984 really go to the mother's unconscious, 760 01:05:41,984 --> 01:05:43,986 and therefore the mother's unconscious 761 01:05:43,986 --> 01:05:47,072 controls the freedom of the baby. 762 01:05:47,072 --> 01:05:50,659 Death at an early age was the script the imprint had for me. 763 01:05:50,659 --> 01:05:52,452 If I had not gone into analysis, 764 01:05:52,452 --> 01:05:54,454 I would have been dead by the age of 30. 765 01:05:54,454 --> 01:05:56,331 Someone comes in in pain, 766 01:05:56,331 --> 01:05:59,376 because, "I hate being," let's say, an attorney. 767 01:05:59,376 --> 01:06:01,962 "I wanna be an artist. 768 01:06:01,962 --> 01:06:05,716 Well, but I can't, because internally I don't feel right 769 01:06:05,716 --> 01:06:07,426 if I make the move to be an artist." 770 01:06:07,426 --> 01:06:09,428 Well, you've got to help them understand 771 01:06:09,428 --> 01:06:11,638 that's not you, 772 01:06:11,638 --> 01:06:14,516 that's you really up against a mother who wants you to be an attorney. 773 01:06:14,516 --> 01:06:15,934 My son, the attorney. 774 01:06:15,934 --> 01:06:18,812 So psychoanalysis, really in the main, 775 01:06:18,812 --> 01:06:21,899 is identifying these strings and cutting them 776 01:06:21,899 --> 01:06:23,984 by making you conscious. 777 01:06:25,986 --> 01:06:28,405 Bail: The goal of analysis 778 01:06:28,405 --> 01:06:32,117 is not surmounting the Oedipal complex, 779 01:06:32,117 --> 01:06:36,038 it's really knowing what your imprint is 780 01:06:36,038 --> 01:06:40,167 and getting all the trash from your mind 781 01:06:40,167 --> 01:06:41,543 out of your mind. 782 01:07:00,437 --> 01:07:02,856 Loren Weiner: The dream is the vehicle you'd use 783 01:07:02,856 --> 01:07:05,234 to do the entire treatment. 784 01:07:05,234 --> 01:07:07,194 It tells you what happened in your life, 785 01:07:07,194 --> 01:07:11,031 because everybody has an unconscious. 786 01:07:11,031 --> 01:07:14,618 So the unconscious is recording everything. 787 01:07:14,618 --> 01:07:16,453 Everything. 788 01:07:16,453 --> 01:07:17,829 Everything you've ever been through, 789 01:07:17,829 --> 01:07:20,249 felt, seen, learned. 790 01:07:20,249 --> 01:07:24,127 And if we can correctly understand that dream, 791 01:07:24,127 --> 01:07:27,589 it relieves the mind and it lets the person grow. 792 01:07:30,676 --> 01:07:34,471 Narrator: Unlike Freud, Bail's method deciphers the dream 793 01:07:34,471 --> 01:07:37,307 listening for the mother's story. 794 01:07:37,307 --> 01:07:40,310 Uncovering the associations in the dream 795 01:07:40,310 --> 01:07:43,063 that will reveal the mother's imprint. 796 01:07:43,063 --> 01:07:47,609 My mother was holding this monkey. 797 01:07:47,609 --> 01:07:50,070 And the monkey is sitting there screaming 798 01:07:50,070 --> 01:07:51,530 and I'm kind of watching it. 799 01:07:51,530 --> 01:07:53,991 Now, you know, 800 01:07:53,991 --> 01:07:56,577 how are you gonna interpret that dream? 801 01:07:57,995 --> 01:08:01,790 I was the little screaming baby 802 01:08:01,790 --> 01:08:03,834 that was trying to reach her 803 01:08:03,834 --> 01:08:05,627 and couldn't 804 01:08:05,627 --> 01:08:09,006 because she wasn't comforting the baby at all, 805 01:08:09,006 --> 01:08:11,508 she was just holding this little monkey. 806 01:08:11,508 --> 01:08:15,095 And by seeing myself in the monkey, 807 01:08:15,095 --> 01:08:18,515 I came to recognize that 808 01:08:18,515 --> 01:08:20,976 on the very deepest level, 809 01:08:20,976 --> 01:08:23,395 that there were a lot of feelings 810 01:08:23,395 --> 01:08:25,439 of abandonment 811 01:08:25,439 --> 01:08:28,358 and a lack of connection to my mother 812 01:08:28,358 --> 01:08:32,487 that I was carrying throughout my life. 813 01:08:32,487 --> 01:08:34,698 Dr. Bail's theory 814 01:08:34,698 --> 01:08:38,327 really goes where Freud stopped. 815 01:08:38,327 --> 01:08:40,495 He continues, and he's really saying, 816 01:08:40,495 --> 01:08:43,624 "Look, we can't just understand dreams as wish fulfillment. 817 01:08:43,624 --> 01:08:45,375 We have to go further." 818 01:08:45,375 --> 01:08:47,461 It's not about sleeping with my mother. 819 01:08:47,461 --> 01:08:50,422 It's about understanding which parts of my mother 820 01:08:50,422 --> 01:08:52,633 I wanna give up 821 01:08:52,633 --> 01:08:55,969 and which parts of my mother are unconsciously 822 01:08:55,969 --> 01:08:58,305 operating in the background, 823 01:08:58,305 --> 01:09:02,017 which I can discover and then put aside 824 01:09:02,017 --> 01:09:04,686 and find my own self. 825 01:09:06,104 --> 01:09:09,107 If you don't get the imprint, 826 01:09:09,107 --> 01:09:11,735 you don't fight against your imprint, 827 01:09:11,735 --> 01:09:14,404 it's like mowing weeds. 828 01:09:14,404 --> 01:09:18,242 You think you've got them, but you haven't got them. 829 01:09:18,242 --> 01:09:22,454 You've got to go and pluck every single weed out. 830 01:09:22,454 --> 01:09:26,583 Nobody knows what they're fighting. 831 01:09:26,583 --> 01:09:29,002 And because they don't know what they're fighting, 832 01:09:29,002 --> 01:09:31,255 they'll lose the battle, 833 01:09:31,255 --> 01:09:35,801 as they have for the past 100,000 years. 834 01:09:35,801 --> 01:09:40,013 I was both the doctor and the patient in this dream. 835 01:09:40,013 --> 01:09:43,183 There was a, um, 836 01:09:43,183 --> 01:09:45,561 figure on a gurney in an emergency room 837 01:09:45,561 --> 01:09:47,479 which I was looking at, 838 01:09:47,479 --> 01:09:50,399 but I felt that I was the figure as well. 839 01:09:50,399 --> 01:09:55,487 I had a pelvis and a head, but nothing else. 840 01:09:55,487 --> 01:09:58,448 And Dr. Bail interpreted that, I think correctly, 841 01:09:58,448 --> 01:10:01,159 as meaning that the way I was living, 842 01:10:01,159 --> 01:10:05,622 I was-- my intellectual side was alive 843 01:10:05,622 --> 01:10:07,833 and I had a lot of sexual feeling, 844 01:10:07,833 --> 01:10:09,877 but no-- no heart. 845 01:10:09,877 --> 01:10:13,463 No, uh, capacity for... for love. 846 01:10:13,463 --> 01:10:15,716 (sobbing) 847 01:10:15,716 --> 01:10:17,759 And, uh, 848 01:10:17,759 --> 01:10:19,803 that has come only with time 849 01:10:19,803 --> 01:10:21,221 and with treatment with him. 850 01:10:23,432 --> 01:10:26,268 Loren Weiner: Little by little, each dream 851 01:10:26,268 --> 01:10:28,812 that removes a piece of toxin 852 01:10:28,812 --> 01:10:30,647 that isn't the person, 853 01:10:30,647 --> 01:10:34,484 you're getting back to the essential nature of yourself. 854 01:10:34,484 --> 01:10:37,446 You're getting back to your full potential. 855 01:10:58,133 --> 01:11:01,803 I kept looking for women who were like my mother. 856 01:11:01,803 --> 01:11:05,516 And my mother hated me. 857 01:11:05,516 --> 01:11:10,687 And I married them, uh, three times in succession. 858 01:11:10,687 --> 01:11:13,398 Loren Weiner: You have to say at some point, 859 01:11:13,398 --> 01:11:16,860 "Imprint, thank you. You saved me, I thought. 860 01:11:16,860 --> 01:11:20,280 But it's so time to let you go." 861 01:11:20,280 --> 01:11:23,825 Maybe down the line when people are more accustomed to this idea, right? 862 01:11:23,825 --> 01:11:28,205 When little kids grow up just knowing, "Oh, you know, I got an imprint. 863 01:11:28,205 --> 01:11:31,917 I'm gonna have to work on this, because I'm not really a bad kid. 864 01:11:31,917 --> 01:11:36,421 I got loaded down with a bunch of junk that isn't me." 865 01:11:38,006 --> 01:11:40,926 (tango music playing) 866 01:11:49,852 --> 01:11:53,522 The woman is the main act, and that's how it should be. 867 01:11:55,399 --> 01:11:59,027 The great sorrow that women have endured, 868 01:11:59,027 --> 01:12:01,989 and the abuse women have endured, 869 01:12:01,989 --> 01:12:08,453 the "no place at the table" that women have endured, 870 01:12:08,453 --> 01:12:13,458 and men are jealous of women, ultimately, 871 01:12:13,458 --> 01:12:18,422 because women can do the one thing no man can do. 872 01:12:18,422 --> 01:12:23,135 They can't produce a baby. 873 01:12:23,135 --> 01:12:26,221 This creates the situation 874 01:12:26,221 --> 01:12:28,974 that makes the imprint 875 01:12:28,974 --> 01:12:32,269 so debilitating. 876 01:12:32,269 --> 01:12:34,771 Is that there's centuries and centuries 877 01:12:34,771 --> 01:12:38,817 of female oppression that gets passed 878 01:12:38,817 --> 01:12:41,945 to every baby that's born. 879 01:12:41,945 --> 01:12:46,241 The masculine forces really run things for far too long. 880 01:12:46,241 --> 01:12:48,785 It, you know, has great intellect, 881 01:12:48,785 --> 01:12:53,457 but it really doesn't have the sensitivity, 882 01:12:53,457 --> 01:12:56,627 the feeling, that's feminine. 883 01:12:56,627 --> 01:13:01,924 These are forces that are contained within each person. 884 01:13:01,924 --> 01:13:06,929 And the optimal state is that a person has them in balance. 885 01:13:14,228 --> 01:13:17,940 Balance, love, 886 01:13:17,940 --> 01:13:20,943 is the only thing that works. 887 01:13:20,943 --> 01:13:25,822 And women must have a place at the table 888 01:13:25,822 --> 01:13:28,742 if there's to be peace. 889 01:13:28,742 --> 01:13:30,619 (tango music playing) 890 01:13:38,126 --> 01:13:40,546 But if you're not sexual, 891 01:13:40,546 --> 01:13:42,798 then you're not really alive. 892 01:13:42,798 --> 01:13:46,051 Life is sex, sex is life. 893 01:13:46,051 --> 01:13:49,596 It's that simple. That's how life should be: simple. 894 01:14:05,988 --> 01:14:08,156 Yes. 895 01:14:24,047 --> 01:14:26,133 (thunder rumbles) 896 01:14:42,858 --> 01:14:45,652 I never expected, uh, 897 01:14:45,652 --> 01:14:49,948 to get in touch with the spiritual side of myself. 898 01:14:49,948 --> 01:14:53,619 Indeed, the deeper one gets into oneself, 899 01:14:53,619 --> 01:14:57,164 the more spiritual one becomes. 900 01:14:57,164 --> 01:15:02,127 Judith Parker: Dr. Bail says once you clean up the unconscious 901 01:15:02,127 --> 01:15:05,172 from all the detritus of past generations, 902 01:15:05,172 --> 01:15:06,798 the angels come, 903 01:15:06,798 --> 01:15:11,428 and I have seen the angels in dreams. 904 01:15:11,428 --> 01:15:14,848 We are supposed to be in contact, through our unconscious, 905 01:15:14,848 --> 01:15:16,266 with the Divine. 906 01:15:16,266 --> 01:15:18,519 That is pure love. 907 01:15:18,519 --> 01:15:22,064 So when a baby's mind is split, 908 01:15:22,064 --> 01:15:26,068 and part of its connection to the Divine is cut off, 909 01:15:26,068 --> 01:15:29,404 it's now got less connection to pure love. 910 01:15:35,244 --> 01:15:37,287 They have choices 911 01:15:37,287 --> 01:15:39,122 where they couldn't see before. 912 01:15:39,122 --> 01:15:41,416 So it's a new world. 913 01:15:41,416 --> 01:15:44,336 They see with different eyes. 914 01:15:44,336 --> 01:15:47,339 Sharon Weiner: I had been in other therapy for a few years, 915 01:15:47,339 --> 01:15:51,677 and it wasn't going anywhere and I started feeling worse, 916 01:15:51,677 --> 01:15:54,805 and I'm an artist and it was-- it's very easy to sort of 917 01:15:54,805 --> 01:15:57,391 watch the progression with my artwork 918 01:15:57,391 --> 01:16:00,435 and, um, the work became 919 01:16:00,435 --> 01:16:02,354 more and more minimal-- in a bad way. 920 01:16:02,354 --> 01:16:05,816 Dr. Bail has helped me with all of that because it's-- 921 01:16:05,816 --> 01:16:08,902 with my imprint, it was to be not visible, 922 01:16:08,902 --> 01:16:13,115 and things just started to change dramatically. 923 01:16:15,200 --> 01:16:19,997 Before Dr. Bail, I was a person that had difficulty loving. 924 01:16:19,997 --> 01:16:25,043 I think the issue for me and my own errors, 925 01:16:25,043 --> 01:16:29,131 uh, philandering within relationships, 926 01:16:29,131 --> 01:16:33,427 has to do with the feeling of wanting desperately 927 01:16:33,427 --> 01:16:35,345 to be seen. 928 01:16:35,345 --> 01:16:38,223 I think Dr. Bail takes that deeper. 929 01:16:38,223 --> 01:16:42,436 Then it's about the feelings that you felt, 930 01:16:42,436 --> 01:16:44,605 either as a very young child 931 01:16:44,605 --> 01:16:48,734 or as a fetus within your mother, 932 01:16:48,734 --> 01:16:51,820 uh, and it's those feelings 933 01:16:51,820 --> 01:16:55,741 that-- that you have to feel 934 01:16:55,741 --> 01:16:58,952 as opposed to intellectually 935 01:16:58,952 --> 01:17:01,246 try to understand. 936 01:17:01,246 --> 01:17:03,874 I was a very cold person. 937 01:17:03,874 --> 01:17:07,878 All I cared about was money, power for myself, 938 01:17:07,878 --> 01:17:12,549 uh, I looked upon others as people to use for my own benefit. 939 01:17:12,549 --> 01:17:15,928 And, um, 940 01:17:15,928 --> 01:17:18,889 that's something that I never would have known 941 01:17:18,889 --> 01:17:20,891 had it not been for my treatment with Dr. Bail. 942 01:17:20,891 --> 01:17:24,394 It's the only means I know of really, uh, 943 01:17:24,394 --> 01:17:26,813 addressing unhappiness 944 01:17:26,813 --> 01:17:29,816 and effecting personality change. 945 01:17:29,816 --> 01:17:32,236 Uh, you won't get in from drugs, 946 01:17:32,236 --> 01:17:34,696 you won't get it from any other kind of talking therapy. 947 01:17:34,696 --> 01:17:38,450 The truth is the light. 948 01:17:38,450 --> 01:17:40,953 And the truth is so relieving. 949 01:17:40,953 --> 01:17:44,039 Ah! It's like taking a deep breath... 950 01:17:44,039 --> 01:17:47,292 and actually not having to work so hard. 951 01:17:47,292 --> 01:17:51,255 When you are living a lie, it takes so much work. 952 01:18:03,725 --> 01:18:05,727 Narrator: At 96, 953 01:18:05,727 --> 01:18:08,730 Bernard Bail has found his balance. 954 01:18:08,730 --> 01:18:12,734 And the love he's been searching for since Irmgard. 955 01:18:12,734 --> 01:18:17,656 Group: ♪ Happy birthday to you ♪ 956 01:18:17,656 --> 01:18:19,658 ♪ And many more... ♪ 957 01:18:19,658 --> 01:18:21,243 Woman: Yay! 958 01:18:21,243 --> 01:18:23,370 (clapping) 959 01:18:26,748 --> 01:18:28,292 (laughter) 960 01:19:13,462 --> 01:19:16,507 I have been 961 01:19:16,507 --> 01:19:18,884 deeply in love with this man for 962 01:19:18,884 --> 01:19:20,969 two years. 963 01:19:20,969 --> 01:19:24,431 This is the first time I have ever allowed myself 964 01:19:24,431 --> 01:19:26,266 to be held. 965 01:19:26,266 --> 01:19:29,520 Most people fall in love at a much younger age. 966 01:19:29,520 --> 01:19:32,397 But I recognize 967 01:19:32,397 --> 01:19:35,776 that I-- I can't do anything but love him. 968 01:19:35,776 --> 01:19:38,278 He tells me he's going to live another 100 years. 969 01:19:38,278 --> 01:19:40,489 Here at the end of his life, 970 01:19:40,489 --> 01:19:42,533 he says... 971 01:19:42,533 --> 01:19:46,161 I'm just his gift from God. 972 01:19:46,161 --> 01:19:48,247 He's my gift. 973 01:19:51,875 --> 01:19:56,296 Narrator: Today, Bernard Bail still practices the work he loves. 974 01:19:56,296 --> 01:20:02,010 And continues to share his theory at conferences worldwide. 975 01:20:02,010 --> 01:20:05,264 He wrote and published The Mother's Signature, 976 01:20:05,264 --> 01:20:09,351 and in-depth accounting of his theory of the mother's imprint, 977 01:20:09,351 --> 01:20:13,063 a memoir, Irmgard's Flute, 978 01:20:13,063 --> 01:20:16,233 and hundreds of essays exploring his theory, 979 01:20:16,233 --> 01:20:19,820 dreams, and prenatal and infant mental life. 980 01:20:22,030 --> 01:20:25,325 His greatest wish is that everyone has access 981 01:20:25,325 --> 01:20:28,036 to the information in his discovery 982 01:20:28,036 --> 01:20:30,205 and takes it into their hearts, 983 01:20:30,205 --> 01:20:33,083 knowing that it's the key to unlocking 984 01:20:33,083 --> 01:20:36,211 the love in themselves and the planet, 985 01:20:36,211 --> 01:20:39,882 one person, one dream at a time. 986 01:20:39,882 --> 01:20:42,259 So, I think the time is right. 987 01:20:42,259 --> 01:20:44,094 I think one day people will look back 988 01:20:44,094 --> 01:20:48,932 and really realize the implications of this. 989 01:20:48,932 --> 01:20:52,728 That if this can be understood and things can change, 990 01:20:52,728 --> 01:20:55,647 everything can change. 991 01:20:55,647 --> 01:20:58,525 And everything can get better. 992 01:20:58,525 --> 01:21:01,737 And everybody can have love. 993 01:22:06,593 --> 01:22:09,429 ♪ Head in the clouds ♪ 994 01:22:12,474 --> 01:22:15,644 ♪ You circle high ♪ 995 01:22:18,730 --> 01:22:21,859 ♪ Here under roots ♪ 996 01:22:24,653 --> 01:22:27,948 ♪ I watch you fly ♪ 997 01:22:30,951 --> 01:22:34,496 ♪ And as if in a balloon ♪ 998 01:22:36,832 --> 01:22:40,627 ♪ My heart floats to you ♪ 999 01:22:42,880 --> 01:22:46,675 ♪ My heart floats to you ♪ 1000 01:22:56,560 --> 01:22:58,937 ♪ With body bound ♪ 1001 01:23:02,649 --> 01:23:04,818 ♪ In gravity ♪ 1002 01:23:08,697 --> 01:23:12,034 ♪ This weightless love ♪ 1003 01:23:14,786 --> 01:23:17,164 ♪ Breaks free ♪ 1004 01:23:20,918 --> 01:23:24,588 ♪ So as if in a balloon ♪ 1005 01:23:26,965 --> 01:23:30,844 ♪ My heart floats to you ♪ 1006 01:23:32,721 --> 01:23:36,225 ♪ My heart floats...♪ 1007 01:23:40,395 --> 01:23:44,066 ♪ I'll send you all I got ♪ 1008 01:23:46,985 --> 01:23:50,239 ♪ Pop it when you want ♪ 1009 01:23:52,783 --> 01:23:57,538 ♪ Untie the bottom knot ♪ 1010 01:23:58,956 --> 01:24:04,962 ♪ Just don't let it drop ♪ 1011 01:24:04,962 --> 01:24:07,923 ♪ And hold it to your chest ♪ 1012 01:24:11,134 --> 01:24:13,971 ♪ Let it be your jets ♪ 1013 01:24:16,890 --> 01:24:23,063 ♪ And far beyond our heads ♪ 1014 01:24:23,063 --> 01:24:25,732 ♪ Let's propel each other up ♪ 1015 01:24:29,152 --> 01:24:32,114 ♪ Your mind's too young ♪ 1016 01:24:35,367 --> 01:24:38,120 ♪ And mine not old enough ♪ 1017 01:24:41,582 --> 01:24:45,836 ♪ Without a common language to speak with ♪ 1018 01:24:47,671 --> 01:24:49,756 ♪ We've built a wall ♪ 1019 01:24:53,427 --> 01:24:57,848 ♪ But as if in a balloon ♪ 1020 01:24:57,848 --> 01:25:01,977 ♪ My heart floats with you ♪ 1021 01:25:04,062 --> 01:25:07,900 ♪ My heart floats with you ♪ 1022 01:25:10,152 --> 01:25:14,823 ♪ My heart floats with you ♪ 1023 01:25:18,035 --> 01:25:20,871 ♪ I'm sending you all I have ♪ 1024 01:25:23,832 --> 01:25:27,753 ♪ I'm sending you all I have to give ♪ 1025 01:25:29,880 --> 01:25:34,218 ♪ Maybe someday wings will burst out my back ♪ 1026 01:25:34,218 --> 01:25:38,639 ♪ And I'll float with you ♪ 1027 01:25:42,142 --> 01:25:45,771 ♪ I'll send you all I got ♪ 1028 01:25:48,732 --> 01:25:51,360 ♪ Pop it when you want ♪ 1029 01:25:54,154 --> 01:26:00,410 ♪ Untie the bottom knot ♪ 1030 01:26:00,410 --> 01:26:06,375 ♪ Just don't let it drop ♪ 1031 01:26:06,375 --> 01:26:09,378 ♪ And hold it to your chest ♪ 1032 01:26:12,714 --> 01:26:15,843 ♪ Let it be your jets ♪ 1033 01:26:18,345 --> 01:26:24,434 ♪ And far beyond our heads ♪ 1034 01:26:24,434 --> 01:26:27,771 ♪ Let's propel each other up ♪ 1035 01:26:30,190 --> 01:26:32,025 Captioned by Post Haste Digital